How to Hold an Inexpensive Funeral, Part 2<\/h2>\n
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Community Spaces\u00a0<\/b><\/h3>\n
A memorial service does not need to include the presence of a loved one\u2019s body, therefore it can happen almost anywhere and anytime. My partner\u2019s memorial service happened quickly. I live on a farm and we gathered a few cheap outdoor heaters and a karaoke machine and didn\u2019t need to worry about permits or scheduling (I certainly didn\u2019t have anything else going on). A week after he died, nearly one hundred people showed up to celebrate his life on what would have been his first full year of sobriety.<\/p>\n
Moving away from traditional memorial spaces allows you to move away from some of the inflated costs associated with them. <\/span><\/div><\/div><\/h4>\nIf you don\u2019t have access to a large enough space, there are other options you can look into. Community centers typically have free or inexpensive reservations. You can also consider spaces your loved one thrived in. Maybe they were good friends with the owner of the Bowling Alley or the pizza shop, someone who has space that would be open to working with you on a manageable rental price. Moving away from traditional memorial spaces also allows you to move away from some of the inflated costs associated with them.<\/p>\n
Outdoor spaces are a great option as well. One option is to plant a grief garden<\/a>, and hold a memorial to inaugurate it. People can bring their own flowers or vegetable to plant, or take part in harvesting the garden. There is no need to rush a memorial service. Even six months after a death, there will still be a need and desire for collective mourning.<\/p>\nPublic parks, rivers, lakes, etc. may all be possible at a lower cost. For example, I dream of attending my own memorial service as a ghost, with all my friends and family camping together at a lake and telling their favorite stories of me around the fire.<\/p>\n
Cultural Significance <\/b><\/h3>\n
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Another piece to consider when planning a memorial service is whether or not there is a cultural element that should be included. Would they have wanted to be memorialized in a religious or spiritual space, or with specific customs and traditions relevant to their culture or beliefs?<\/p>\n
There are specific and important memorial rituals for African Americans<\/a>, post-cremation Hindu<\/a> rituals, specific prayers in Judaism (Kaddish) and Islam (Janazah), Indigenous cultural protocols<\/a> (PDF file), Pagan blessings for the dead<\/a>, and so much more. Some of these rituals and practices are highly formalized, while others can be participatory and done in almost any location.<\/p>\nInviting a spiritual or religious figure to lead a ritual, share a prayer, or speak at the memorial service may be meaningful for your loved one. Often, a simple donation is all that is required. Alternatively, you can ask a family member or friend to integrate religious or cultural traditions into the memorial service.
\n<\/span><\/p>\nSometimes, it\u2019s in the details. The location becomes less important when the structure of the memorial is meaningful and done with care and love. At my partner\u2019s memorial, a friend built a large shrine of scrap wood where everyone placed candles, pictures, tarot cards, and other objects relevant to him.<\/p>\n
Accept Support\u00a0<\/b><\/h3>\n
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When a loved one dies, everything around you can occur faster than you can grasp. You may be the type of person who needs to jump in and get organized, but if not, you may have a friend or family member willing to lend a hand. There are also organizations in many regions that specifically offer help.<\/p>\n
If money is an issue, you can consider turning to crowdfunding. With the help of my partner\u2019s community, we were able to raise $25,000 USD on GoFundMe<\/a> to cover funeral costs and multiple memorial services. This way, everyone in his wide orbit had space to mourn together.<\/p>\n Incorporating their memory into how you move through the rest of your life is a powerful way to keep memories alive. <\/span><\/div><\/div><\/h4>\nIf asking for financial assistance makes you uncomfortable, just remember that most people want<\/i> a way to help in times of grief. Being a part of a community means being able to accept help, and modelling that for others who need support.<\/p>\n
As we’ve mentioned in other articles, getting the support of a death doula<\/a> can help save money and effort when planning a memorial. It\u2019s likely they already know ways to save money and come with many ideas for memorializing and upholding the legacy of your loved one.<\/p>\nVirtual Memorials<\/b><\/h3>\n
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A zoom memorial<\/a> is an easy option that most people can figure out how to navigate. Zoom also lets you to use breakout rooms where you can have smaller spaces of people who may want to share stories, talk as they work on legacy projects, or even play games to lighten the mood.<\/p>\nThere are more interesting options as well, such as the Gather Town App<\/a> which allows you to design a video game-like space where you can move an avatar around to different spaces.<\/p>\n
If you don\u2019t have access to a large enough space, there are other options you can look into. Community centers typically have free or inexpensive reservations. You can also consider spaces your loved one thrived in. Maybe they were good friends with the owner of the Bowling Alley or the pizza shop, someone who has space that would be open to working with you on a manageable rental price. Moving away from traditional memorial spaces also allows you to move away from some of the inflated costs associated with them.<\/p>\n
Outdoor spaces are a great option as well. One option is to plant a grief garden<\/a>, and hold a memorial to inaugurate it. People can bring their own flowers or vegetable to plant, or take part in harvesting the garden. There is no need to rush a memorial service. Even six months after a death, there will still be a need and desire for collective mourning.<\/p>\n Public parks, rivers, lakes, etc. may all be possible at a lower cost. For example, I dream of attending my own memorial service as a ghost, with all my friends and family camping together at a lake and telling their favorite stories of me around the fire.<\/p>\n Another piece to consider when planning a memorial service is whether or not there is a cultural element that should be included. Would they have wanted to be memorialized in a religious or spiritual space, or with specific customs and traditions relevant to their culture or beliefs?<\/p>\n There are specific and important memorial rituals for African Americans<\/a>, post-cremation Hindu<\/a> rituals, specific prayers in Judaism (Kaddish) and Islam (Janazah), Indigenous cultural protocols<\/a> (PDF file), Pagan blessings for the dead<\/a>, and so much more. Some of these rituals and practices are highly formalized, while others can be participatory and done in almost any location.<\/p>\n Inviting a spiritual or religious figure to lead a ritual, share a prayer, or speak at the memorial service may be meaningful for your loved one. Often, a simple donation is all that is required. Alternatively, you can ask a family member or friend to integrate religious or cultural traditions into the memorial service. Sometimes, it\u2019s in the details. The location becomes less important when the structure of the memorial is meaningful and done with care and love. At my partner\u2019s memorial, a friend built a large shrine of scrap wood where everyone placed candles, pictures, tarot cards, and other objects relevant to him.<\/p>\n When a loved one dies, everything around you can occur faster than you can grasp. You may be the type of person who needs to jump in and get organized, but if not, you may have a friend or family member willing to lend a hand. There are also organizations in many regions that specifically offer help.<\/p>\n If money is an issue, you can consider turning to crowdfunding. With the help of my partner\u2019s community, we were able to raise $25,000 USD on GoFundMe<\/a> to cover funeral costs and multiple memorial services. This way, everyone in his wide orbit had space to mourn together.<\/p>\n If asking for financial assistance makes you uncomfortable, just remember that most people want<\/i> a way to help in times of grief. Being a part of a community means being able to accept help, and modelling that for others who need support.<\/p>\n As we’ve mentioned in other articles, getting the support of a death doula<\/a> can help save money and effort when planning a memorial. It\u2019s likely they already know ways to save money and come with many ideas for memorializing and upholding the legacy of your loved one.<\/p>\n A zoom memorial<\/a> is an easy option that most people can figure out how to navigate. Zoom also lets you to use breakout rooms where you can have smaller spaces of people who may want to share stories, talk as they work on legacy projects, or even play games to lighten the mood.<\/p>\n There are more interesting options as well, such as the Gather Town App<\/a> which allows you to design a video game-like space where you can move an avatar around to different spaces.<\/p>\nCultural Significance <\/b><\/h3>\n
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\n<\/span><\/p>\nAccept Support\u00a0<\/b><\/h3>\n
<\/p>\nVirtual Memorials<\/b><\/h3>\n
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